Tuesday, March 29, 2011

His Little Project

I am still reupholstering the chairs and God is still speaking!  It's pretty cool;  just me and God hanging out, working on my little project while He works on His little project! (that would be me, in case you didn't catch that)  I found it funny, as I was reflecting on things today, that the first time I reupholstered these chairs almost 16 years ago, I had absolutely no idea how to do it.  I got some advice and even a little help from a friend, but the project was one in which I had to fully rely on God to finish.  I remember talking to God and saying, "I don't have a clue how to do this Lord, but You know everything, please direct me and use this project to bring Glory to your name."  I remember the feeling of awe and pride I had when the chairs were finished.  I remember the first Holiday we spent sitting on them and the compliments my handiwork  received.  It was quite the testimony as I shared the story!

I forgot, until today, how tedious the work was and how painful at times, (I stapled my finger and stepped on an upholstery tack!  OUCH!) the process was.  And once again, I began to liken this project to my walk with the Lord.  At one point, I was pulling about 300 staples out the top of the chair and commented out loud, (yes, I talk to myself!) "gees, did you have to be SUCH a perfectionist?"  Apparently, that was the invitation God needed, to start speaking. 

He began to show me the lengthy process of removing the root cause of perfectionism in my life.  With every staple I pulled, I had flashes of various memories where this particular "ism" reared it's ugly head.    Let me stop right here for a moment.  If any of my old friends or family members are reading this, please accept my apology and thank you for your long-suffering!   I wish I could tell you that God just delivered me from this one day, but that would be a lie.  The truth is that God has delivered me from perfectionism, but the process has taken the last 17 years!

  I remember the day  God revealed to me the root of it.  I had just had a party for a dear friend's birthday.  As usual,  I wanted everything Perfect!  I, on this particular occasion had delegated (something we perfectionist rarely do)  the appetizer portion of the meal to another dear friend who happened to be a fantastic chef!   This particular lady, was also someone who was seldom on time for things and I remember thinking this was probably not my best idea.  The day of the party came and everyone arrived, except my friend who had the appetizer!   Dinner was ready and I was freaking out.    She arrived, after a phone call, about an hour and half late.    Let's just say that I acted utterly childish and offended many of those I had invited to be  my guests.  The worst part of all was that I felt, at the time,  justified in my anger.  The real issue; I was to find out the next day at the alter, was not that I was a hot-head, it was the well-known fact, that  I was INSECURE.

No one ( who wants to continue being friends with you) can tell you that you are insecure.  That information graciously came from my Heavenly Father!  And so began the great dig!  I asked the Lord that day to root out the insecurity and thereby remove many of the "isms" that plagued me.  I also asked my friends to forgive me for acting like such a fool.  The "root" was deep; not like a dandelion, but like a yucca.  Now, if you don't garden, you probably don't know that the root of a yucca plant is damn- near impossible to dig out, and if you happen to leave the slightest bit of the root in the ground, it will grow up again like crazy.  I only know this, because I had one in my yard and it took a backhoe to get it out!   I dug at that root for an entire summer one year and the following year that plant was back and hardier than ever--that is when I got the backhoe!    Unfortunately, or maybe Fortunately, depending on your point of view,  God doesn't use a backhoe!  He does, however, continue to  whittle away at the nasty roots until one day, they are gone.  Praise God!  He who began a good work in me is Faithful to complete it.

Today, I understand the difference between excellence and perfectionism.  I would rather do things with excellence than perfection any day!   It is a good thing to see growth in yourself.  The Bible says,  He brings us from Glory to Glory!  Now, to Him be the Glory forever and ever.  Amen

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